..... and emerges relatively unscathed.
I was so worried for her.
I wasn’t worried that she wouldn’t score high. Standardized tests are not the be-all end-all benchmark for mastery of knowledge on a given topic. I know that Sissy’s test results may show weakness in some areas. In fact, I’d be surprised if she didn’t score a little lower than average in science and social studies. Because the curriculum we use for those subjects covers material in a different order than most public and private schools, I’m sure she was tested on some things we hadn’t covered at all. And I’m OK with that.
But I wasn’t sure SHE would be OK with that. She thinks she should know the answer to everything, sometimes even before it’s taught to her. She doesn’t like not knowing the answer. It makes her very uncomfortable. And she freaks out when she’s being timed, at least at home. So I really didn’t know how she would handle the whole testing thing.
And it cut me like a knife, to think of her sitting there, staring at her test with panic in her eyes, and knowing, just KNOWING that something terrible would happen if she shaded in the wrong circle, and HYPERVENTILATING at the thought of second after precious second ticking unmercifully by. And I knew she would do that, I just KNEW it, because I KNOW her better than I know MYSELF, because I bore her from my LOINS........ because we’re flesh and BLOOD, body and SOUL, and well… she gets the whole tendency-to-overdramatize-everything from me.
Obviously.
So I psyched her up on the way to the test site. “You’ll do fine,” I said. “But, you should know there will probably be some stuff on these tests that you don’t know. Maybe stuff we haven’t even learned about. And that’s OK. Don’t panic. Just make your best guess”.
“OK”, she chirped, a little nervously.
And when I picked her after the first day of testing…. She was smiling!
She said it wasn’t bad! She even said it was kind-of fun!
Being awash in relief is the sweetest feeling in the world.
It was short-lived though.
“But Mommy, I was supposed to bring a SNACK”, she said reproachfully.
“Oh, I’m sorry honey. They told me you COULD bring a snack, they didn’t say you HAD to bring one, and you had a really good breakfast, and testing was only two hours long and….. did everybody else in your testing class have a snack?”
“Yes”…. ( and now, I’m suffering self-inflicted wounds again, picturing her alone and snackless in a room full of eating children) ….. “But two other girls shared theirs with me. They were nice. Hey Mommy, what’s your favorite part of the water cycle? Mine’s precipitation.”
And just like that, it was forgotten.
Relief again.
Thank you, sweet, generous girls, whoever you are.